We’ve all had those moments. You’re talking to your Democrat friend and then politics comes up. Cue: pouring some tequila in your smoothie. They sound ridiculous, especially through your fresh buzz, and they think you sound ridiculous, also maybe because of the tequila – but there never seems to be any common ground. The reason is that there is a deep idealogical difference. It’s because you believe in the concept of “absolute truth” and they believe in “relative truth” or “my truth.”
Absolute truth is the idea that an onion is an onion, no matter how much I want it to be an apple. I can treat the onion like an apple – make juice out of it, and even turn it into a pie, but it’s still an onion. Even an onion that identifies as an apple is still an onion. Absolute truth.
Relative truth is the idea that truth is relative and fluid, not definitive. Truth can be altered by an individual as it is convenient for them. So if I want my onion to be an apple, then it’s an apple, and everybody has to treat it like an apple. If I bake it in a pie, you had better say it’s delicious and call it an apple pie.
Relative truth arose because absolute truth sometimes cramps our lifestyle. It holds us accountable which can be unpleasant. We want to live how we want, for good or evil, and feel justified. Hence the saying: “I’m living my truth” – maybe the worst saying ever – because you’re saying that truth is relative, and relative specifically to you. There is not your truth. There is just the truth. As an example, the Twitch streaming service just hired a trans woman to help with its censorship department who identifies as a deer. This is not a joke. The streamer, who goes by the username: FerociouslySteph, says he likes to “prance around, eat grass and have deer-gasms.” Absolute truth would say FerociouslySteph is a man, while relative truth would say he’s a deer. Which do you believe, and which would your Democrat friend believe? There’s the idealogical difference. Relative truth means no one does anything “wrong” anymore (except conservatives.)
So then, besides the erosion of a hard line “right” and “wrong” in our culture, how do the Democrats‘ belief in relativism create a situation where you and your leftist friends can’t even have a reasonable conversation? Because once your belief system is based on relativism, it is no longer based on facts, it’s based on how you feel – how you’re “living your truth”.
My ex-girlfriend came out an abusive relationship before she started dating me and unfortunately, as often happens, she brought all that anger and hurt into our relationship. Fortunately, over time, she healed and became more herself. However, any time I became angry at anything, she would always say I was angry for the way she treated me in the past. That wasn’t the reason. I was upset at her not following through on anything she was saying and her lack of motivation, not because of anything that happened from a year ago. She didn’t believe me. As many times as I told her the past was the past and not the issue I was having, she would constantly bring it up as the reason I was mad, not her current lack of dependability. What I said about the subject, and what was true about the subject didn’t matter – all that mattered is how she felt about the subject, her personal truth. Was her personal truth the truth? No. When I told her what the truth was, did it make a difference? No. She believed what she wanted to believe – relative truth. Maybe this frustrating situation sounds familiar. Once people believe in relativism, there is no common set of principals that determine right or wrong for both people.
So what should you do? Love those people. (Good for you for having Democrat friends – most Democrats will delete, block and expel you from their lives if you disagree with their relative truths.) When they ignore all facts, realize that facts don’t matter to them. They are living their truth. Unfortunately, their truth is often not absolute truth.
Paul Leach is a professional writer and WGA member in Los Angeles. He has been interviewed in such publications as the New York Council on Cultural Affairs and the Huffington Post.